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The People Pleaser's Guide to Setting Boundaries

The People Pleaser's Guide to Setting Boundaries

Boundaries. Let’s talk about them, let’s get comfortable talking about them. When we get comfortable talking about boundaries, we get more comfortable setting boundaries.

It sounds simple, but for many of us, setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable. You see, it was also ingrained in many of us as kids that setting boundaries causes feelings to be hurt. “Give grandpa a kiss or you’ll hurt his feelings!” “Lisa asked you over for a play date, if you don’t go it will hurt her feelings.”

The Secret to Self Care

The Secret to Self Care

If we wait until we’re drowning to grab on to the lifesaver dangling in front of us, it may be too late. In the case of self care, this might mean when we get to the actual self care act, it may exhaust us more than it uplifts us. If you’re running on empty but know you need to get in a yoga class to boost yourself up, the class may have the opposite effect. Between the act of driving to the class and the actual exercise, you may leave feeling exhausted rather than energized.