The thing no one wants to talk about. The thing that feels hard and scary to talk about. For those who experience suicidal thoughts, it is hard and scary to talk about because we may be the only ones who feel that way. We may scare our family and friends. We may damage the facade that we are okay. We may seem weak or selfish.
It is also important to remember in thinking about your own childhood traumas or a trauma experienced by your child, that children define events differently than we do as adults. I think back to an incident in my own childhood where I was playing outside and went in to the yard of a house near by to say hello to a dog in the yard. The dog jumped on my back, bigger than I was, and knocked me down. For some, this incident might have instilled a lifelong fear of dogs, but in my 5-year-old brain I defined the event as the dog giving me a hug.