It is also important to remember in thinking about your own childhood traumas or a trauma experienced by your child, that children define events differently than we do as adults. I think back to an incident in my own childhood where I was playing outside and went in to the yard of a house near by to say hello to a dog in the yard. The dog jumped on my back, bigger than I was, and knocked me down. For some, this incident might have instilled a lifelong fear of dogs, but in my 5-year-old brain I defined the event as the dog giving me a hug.
We carry computers in our pockets in the form of smartphones. This brings an expectation that we're constantly on the clock. Even on evenings and weekends, many of us hold jobs where clients and colleagues expect us to respond immediately to emails and calls. With this constant connection to work, friends, and social media, the connection with our kids is weakening.